Sunday, May 20, 2012

5 Rules To Live By, As Decided By Some Random Chick On The Internet

5) Don't Be A Dick
You are probably already familiar with this one's prettier cousin known as 'do unto others as you would have done unto you'.  But what it boils down to is this:  don't be an asshole.  Just don't.  Don't be arrogant, don't walk around like you're better than people, don't say something hurtful to someone just because you can.  Only the weakest of people try to gain strength by knocking someone else down.  And the thing is, everyone sees you for the small person that you actually are when you do.  Opt instead for kindness.  Trite as it may sound, you never know when someone needs it.  Just be nice.

4) Rather, Have Balls
Be brave.  Don't be a coward.  If you screw up, admit to it.  Know how to apologize; you won't get very far in the world otherwise. Dream big. If you know what you want, make it happen.  Persevere.  HAVE BALLS.

3) Get Over Yourself
Life owes you nothing.  NOTHING.  Had a shitty childhood?  Throw a rock in the air and you'll find people whose childhoods were unhappy.  By the time you reach the age of 20, you own your shit.  It's yours.  You alone are responsible for making your own happiness.  If you rely on your spouse, your children, your work to give it to you, you will be grossly disappointed.  That's not to say we don't find happiness in these things, but putting the burden of YOUR happiness onto them is guaranteed to weigh them down and, in the end, will drown them. Put on your big-boy/big-girl undies and come on, get happy.  

2)Get A Grip
Every now and then, we all need a little kick in the ass to regain perspective.  There's always someone in the world who would change places with you in a heartbeat.  Maybe it's as simple as the person who envies that you have a job while they are still searching.  Maybe it's as big as the woman who lost her child and would give anything to be up in the middle of the night with a crying baby.  Maybe it's even bigger than that, maybe it's knowing that you know you will eat tonight, sleep with a roof over your head, while somewhere in the world is someone who doesn't know where their next meal will come from.  Sometimes you need to go that far out to find it, but without a doubt there is always someone in this world worse off than you who would love to have your life and your problems.  Take time to feel your pain, but don't lose perspective.  Keep your eyes open to the blessings around you.  They are there.  But you won't see them if your focus is turned only inward. 

1)Love Big
Real love, big love, True Love, happens.  But it doesn't happen often, so when you find it,  you've got to jump up and grab it.  Then, once you've got it, fight like hell to keep it.  Don't take it for granted, don't hide from it.  Throw yourself into it with your heart and soul and arms open.  BE OPEN.  Or risk never basking in it at all.  And, without it, what is the point?